Love makes you rebellious; revolutionary.
No state, no church, no vested interest has ever wanted people to have strong souls, because a person with high spiritual energy is bound to be rebellious.
Love gives you insight into things, so that nobody can deceive, exploit or oppress you. And the priests and the politicians survive only on your blood; they survive only on exploitation.
All the priests and politicians are parasites. To make you spiritually weak they have found a sure method, one hundred percent guaranteed, and that is to teach you not to love yourself.
The missionaries, the social reformers, the social servants have the greatest egos in the world – naturally, because they think themselves to be superior.
A man who loves himself takes the first step toward real love.
Love knows nothing of duty. Duty is a burden, a formality.
Love is a joy, a sharing; love is informal.
The Virtues of Selfishness
If you are not selfish, you will not be altruistic.
If you are not selfish, you will not be unselfish, either.
Only a very deeply selfish person can be unselfish.
The first basic thing is to be self-centered.
The second basic thing is always to look for one’s bliss-fulness.
If you are self-centered, you will be selfish whatsoever you do. You may go and serve people, but you do it only because you enjoy it, because you love doing it, you feel blissful and happy doing it – you feel yourself doing it. You are not doing any duty; you are not ‘serving humanity’. You are not a great martyr; you are not sacrificing. You are simply being happy in your own way – it feels good to you. You go to the hospital and serve the ill people there, or you go to the poor and serve them, but you love it. Deep down you feel blissful and silent, happy about yourself.
A self-centered person is always seeking his happiness. And this is the beauty of it, that the more you seek your happiness, the more you will help others to be happy. Because that’s the only way to be happy in the world. If everybody else around you is unhappy, you cannot be happy, because man is not an island. He is part of the vast continent. If you want to be happy, you will have to help others who surroud you to be happy. Then – and only then – can you be happy.
You have to create the atmosphere of happiness around you. If everybody is miserable, how can you be happy? You will be affected. You are not a stone, you are a very delicate being, very sensitive. If everyone is miserable around you, their misery will affect you. Misery is as infectious as any disease. Blissfulness is also infectious as any disease. If you help others to be happy, in the end you help yourself to be happy. A person who is deeply interested in his happiness, is always interested in other’s happiness also – but not for them. Deep down he is interested in himself; that’s why he helps. If in the world everybody is taught to be selfish, the whole world will be happy. There will be no possibility for misery.
A happy person is so happy, he wants to be left alone to be happy. He wants his own privacy to be preserved. He wants to live with the flowers and the poetry and the music. Why should he bother to go to wars, be killed and kill others? Why should he be murderous and suicidal? Only unselfish people can do that, because they have never had experience of what is possible for them. They have never had any experience of what it is to be, what it is to celebrate. They have never danced, they have never breathed life. They have not known any divine glimpse; all those glimpses come from deep happiness, from deep satiety, contentment.
When you have happiness, you can share it; when you don’t have it, how can you share it?
To share, in the first place one must have it. An unselfish person is always serious, deep down ill, in anguish. He has missed his own life. And remember, whenever you miss your life, you become murderous, suicidal. Whenever a person lives in misery, he would like to destroy.
Misery is destructive; happiness is creative. There is only one creativity and that is of blissfulness, cheerfulness, delight. When you are delighted, you want to create something – maybe a toy for children, maybe a poem, maybe a painting, something. Whenever you are too delighted in life, how do you express it? You create something – something or other. But when one is miserable, he wants to crush and destroy something. He would like to become a politician, a soldier – to create a situation where he be destructive [and get away with it, meikän lisäys)].
That’s why every now and then war erupts somewhere on the earth.
To preserve peace, one should prepare for peace, not war! [eli armeijat tekeen jotain rakentavaa ja rakentaan laadukasta rauhaa, jolloin ei edes kiinnosta leikkiä sotaleikkejä! Ei kiinnosta vastustaa mitään tai dissata ketään, kun on kirjaimellisesti yhtä juhlaa oleminen, musaa, tanssia..]
That’s why the new generation all over the world is a great danger to the establishment. They are interested only in being happy. They are interested in love, they are interested in meditation, they are interested in music, dance… Politicians have become very alert all over the world. The new generation is not interested in politics – rightist or leftist. No, they are not interested at all. They are not communist; they don’t belong to any -ism.
So I don’t teach you to be unselfish because I know if you are selfish, you will be unselfish automatically, spontaneously.
Forget about the world and the society and the utopias and Karl Marx. Forget about all this. You are here for a few years to be. Enjoy, delight, be happy, dance, and love; and out of your love and dancing, out of your deep selfishness will start an overflowing of energy. You will be able to share that with others.
The Fundamental Slavery
Sex is the most powerful instinct in man. The politician and the priest have understood from the very beginning that sex is the most driving energy in man. It has to be curtailed, it has to be cut. If man is allowed total freedom in sex, then there will be no possibility to dominate him. To make a slave out of him will be impossible.
Have you not seen it being done? When you want a bull to be yoked to a cart, what do you do? You castrate him, you destroy his sex energy. And have you not seen the difference between a bull and an ox? What a difference! An ox is a poor phenomenon, a slave. A Bull is a beauty; a bull is a glorious phenomenon, a great splendor. See a bull walking, how he walks like an emperor! And see an ox pulling a cart.
The same has been done to man. The sex instinct hass been curtailed, cut, crippled. Man does not exist as the bull now, he exists like the ox, and each man is pulling a thousand and one carts. Look and you will find behind you a thousand and one carts, and you are yoked to them.
Why can’t you yoke a bull? The bull is too powerful. If he sees a cow passing by, he will throw both you and the cart, and he will move to the cow! He will not bother a bit about who you are, and he will not listen. It will be impossible to control the bull. Sex energy is life energy; it is uncontrollable. And the politician and the priest are not interested in you, they are interested in channeling your energy into other directions. So there is another mechanism behind it – it has to be understood.
Sex repression, tabooing sex, is the very foundation of human slavery. Man cannot be free unless sex is free. Man cannot be really free unless his sex energy is allowed natural growth.
The most intelligent people are the most sexual people. This has to be understood, because love energy is basically intelligence.
When a woman is loved, she becomes more beautiful immediately, instantly!
When people are sexually repressed, lovewise repressed, they start hankering for the other life. They think about heaven, paradise, but they don’t think to create the paradise here, now.
You are already there! But when your love energy is repressed, you start thinking, “here is nothing, now is empty. Then there must be somewhere some goal…” You go to the priest and ask about heaven and he paints beautiful pictures of heaven. Sex has been repressed so that you can become interested in the other life. And when people are intersted in the other life, naturally they are not interested in this life.
It is a great conspiracy against humanity. It is a great conspiracy against you! Your politician and your priest are your enemies, but they pretend that they are ‘public servants’. They say, “We are here to serve you, to help you attain better life. We are here to create good life for you.” And they are the destroyers of life itself.
If a man can love five persons, he should love five. If a man can love fifty, he should love fifty. If a man can love five hundred, he should love five hundred. Love is so rare that the more you can spread it, the better.
It is as if there was a law that you can breathe only when you are with your husband. Then breathing will be impossible!
You have to breathe 24 hours a day!
They talk about “higher love” and destroy the lower. They say that the lower love has to be denied; bodily love is bad, spiritual love is good.
Have you ever seen a spirit without a body? Have you ever seen a house without a foundation? The lower is the foundation of the higher.
The lower makes it possible for the higher to exist.
The common people have not really been allowed lovemaking. “It is too good for them.”
But when the priest poisons the common people, finally he also is poisoned. When the politician poisons the common people’s air, finally he also breathes the same air – there is no other air.
When you repress things on the surface, they all go deep inside, into the subconscious. It is there. Sex has not been destroyed – fortunately. It has only been poisoned. It cannot be destroyed; it is life energy. It has become polluted, and it can be purified.
Your life problems can basically be reduced to your sex problems. You can go on solving other problems but you will never be able to solve them because they are not true problems. And if you solve your sex problem, all problems will disappear because you have solved the basic problem.
A great purification is needed. Reclaim your freedom. Reclaim your freedom to love. Reclaim your freedom to be and then life is no longer a problem. It is a mystery, it is an ecstasy.
Move into it as deeply as you can. While the energy is there, love as deeply as you can, and make an art of it. It is not just to be “done” – that is the whole meaning of making an art of lovemaking. There are nuances, which only people who enter with great aesthetic sense will be able to know.
It Takes a Village…
Man has outgrown the family.
The utility of the family is finished; it has lived too long. It is one of the most ancient institutions, so only very perceptive people can see that it is dead already. It will take time for others to recognize the fact that the family is dead.
It has done it’s work. It is no longer relevant in the new context of things; it is no longer relevant for the new humanity that is just being born.
The family has been good and bad. It has been a help – man has survived through it – and it has been very harmful because it has corrupted the human mind. But there was no alternative in the past, there was no way to choose anything else. It was a necessary evil. That need not be so in the future. The future can have alternative styles.
My idea is that the future is not going to be one fixed pattern; it will have many, many alternative styles. If a few people still choose to have a family, they should have the freedom to have it. It will be a very small percentage. There are families on the earth – very rare, not more than one percent – that are really beautiful, that are really beneficial, in which growth happens. In which there is no authority, no power trip, no possessiveness; in which children are not destroyed. In which the wife is not trying to destroy the husband and husband is not trying to destroy the wife; where love is and freedom is; where people have gathered together just out of joy, not for other reasons, where there is no politics. Yes, these kinds of families existed on earth; they are still there. For these people there is no need to change. In the future they can continue to live in families.
But for the greater majority, the family is an ugly thing. You can ask the psychoanalysts and they will say that all kinds of mental diseases arise out of the family. All kinds of psychoses, neuroses, arise out of the family. The family creates a very, very ill human being.
There is no need; alternative styles should be possible. For me, one alternative style is the commune – it is the best.
A commune means people living in a liquid family. Children belong to the commune – they belong to all. A man lives with a woman because they feel like living together, because they cherish it, they enjoy it. The moment they feel that love is no longer happening, they don’t go on clinging to each other. They start moving with other people.
The only problem in the past was what to do with the children. In a commune, children can belong to the commune and that is far better. They will have more opportunities to grow with many more kinds of people. Otherwise a child grows up with the mother – for years the mother and the father are the only two images of human beings for him. Naturally he starts imitating them. Children turn out to be imitations of their fathers, and they perpetuate the same kind of illness in the world as their parents did. They become carbon copies. It is very destructive. And there is no way for the children to do something else; they don’t have any other source of information.
If a hundred people live together in a commune, there will be many male members, many female members; the child need not get fixed and obsessed with one pattern of life. He can learn from his father, he can learn from his uncles, he can learn from all the men in the community. He will have a bigger soul.
Families crush people and give them very little souls. In the community, the child will have a bigger soul; he will have more possibilities, he will be far more enriched in his being. He will see many women, he will not have one idea of a woman. It is very destructive to have only one single idea of a woman – because throughout your whole life you will be searching and searching for your mother. Whenever you fall in love with a woman, watch! There is every possibility that you have found someone that is similar to your mother, and that may be the thing that you should have avoided.
In a commune a child will have a richer soul. He will know many women, he will know many men; he will not be addicted to one or two persons.
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Käytännössä kaikki tämä tulee luonnostaan, kun jengi alkaa yhä enemmän seurata omaa blissiään, sääntöjen sijaan. Fiilistelemään, mikä tuntuu oikeasti luontevalle, ja toimimaan sen mukaan – etenkin silloin kun se rikkoo jotain babylonian “sääntöä”. Jos sun tekee mieli tulla katsomaan tai vaikka jopa hoitamaan ‘mun’ lasta, tule! Ei meidän kenenkään enää tarvi uskoa enää naurettaviin keinotekoisiin aikansa eläneisiin rajoihin, kuten “perhe” tai “mun lapsi”.
Tee, mikä houkuttelee ja vetää puoleensa. En mä koskaan auta ketään tai lahjoita rahaa tai foodeja – paitsi silloin kun jo pelkkä ajatus houkuttaa kuin raakasuklaa karkkipäivänä. Me ihmiset ollaan luonnostaan niin saakelin hyviä. Ainoastaan papit, poliitikot, virkailijat ja massamedia on saaneet sut uskomaan päinvastaista, ja siten toimimaan vastoin sun luonnostaan hyviä impulsseja.
Eli siis tule, jos ajatus tuntuu niin houkuttelevalta, että jo pelkästään sen ajattelemisesta ja kuvittelemisesta tulee paremmalle tuulelle ja kroppaan alkaa kertyä ihanaa energiaa. Yleensä juurikin sellaisten mielikuvien toteuttaminen tuntuu vielä kuvittelemistakin paremmalta, ja sama tarttuu kaikkiin sun ympärilläkin.
Kun olin hieman eri mieltä lapsen ruokinnasta, musta tuntui luonnollisimmalta olla hiljaa, joten olin hiljaa. En alkanut puhumaan “koska sulla on isänä velvollisuus-sanoa-sitä-tätä…”
Tuntui myös luonnollisemmalta antaa Sailan ja lapsen tehdä omaa juttuaan, kuin sörkkiä väliin, joten lähdin Espooseen tekeen omaa juttuani. Ja huomasin, että vaikka sääntöjen täyttämä babylon-mieli sanoisi mitä, nuo näyttää olevan onnellisempia kun niitä ei (liikaa) häiriköi.
Tietenkin kaikki tämä rikkoo rajusti kaikkien kroonisesti sairaiden sukulaisten “komentoja”.
Toimimalla vaikka varmuuden vuoksi kaikkien tyhmien ja onnettomien “käskyjä” vastaan, saavutat yleensä ihan eri tasoista onnea ja vapautta kuin mistä onnettomat osaa edes haaveilla.
Ja ainoastaan heidän lapset edelleen sairastelee – samasta syystä.
Ja kyllä, mua ei yhtään haittaa jos mun lapsella on vaikka sata isähahmoa!! <3
Kaksi on tuplasti parempi kuin yksi, ja kymmenen isää on kymmenen kertaa parempi. En pysty edes tajuamaan, miten moinen voisi edes teoriassa haitata ketään? Tenniskin olisi varsin tylsää jos vuosikymmenestä toiseen pelaisi pelkästään saman kaverin kanssa, ja kumpikin vieläpä tarkasti vahtisi, ettei toinen taatusti treenaa kenenkään muun kanssa, eikä varmasti ota mistään ulkopuolelta uusia vaikutteita.... 
“you will have love from many sources. You will feel that life is loving.”
“There is no need for any divorce – because there is no marriage, there is no divorce. One lives spontaneously.”
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When one lives miserably, by and by (s)he becomes habituated to misery. Never for a single moment should one tolerate any misery. It may have been good to live with a man in the past, and joyful, but if it is no longer joyful then you have to get out of it.
In the future there will be no marriage as it has been in the past, and no divorce as it has been in the past. Life will be more liquid, more trusting. There will be more trust in the mysteries of life than in the clarities of the law. More trust in life itself than in anything like the court, police, priests or the church.
This will be the most revolutionary step in human history – for people to start living in communes and to start being truthful, honest, trusting, and to go on dropping the law more and more.
The very idea of bringing children up is nonsense. You can help at the most; you cannot “bring them up”. The very idea of building up children is nonsense – not only nonsense, also harmful, very harmful. You cannot build… A child is not a thing, not like a building! A child is like a tree. Yes, you can help. You can prepare soil, you can water, you can watch whether sun reaches the plant or not – that’s all. But it is not that you are bringing up the plant; it is up on its own. You can help, but you cannot bring it up and you cannot build it up.
If your husband is laughing with somebody else, it is good. Your husband is laughing – laughter is always good. With whom it happens doesn’t matter – laughter is good, laughter is of value.
If your woman is holding somebody else’s hand, good! Warmth is flowing – the flow of warmth is good, it is valuable. With whom it is happening is immaterial.
And if it is happening to your woman with many people, it will go on happening with you, too!(!!)
If it has stopped happening with anybody else, then it is going to stop with you, too! The whole old idea is so stupid!(!)
It is as if the moment your husband goes out, you say to him, “don’t breathe anywhere else. When you come home, breathe as much as you want, but only when you are with me can you breathe. Outside hold your breath, become a yogi. I don’t want you to breathe anywhere else.”
Love is breathing.
It is far more important than breathing.
When people meet on a beach, when they meet in a garden, when they are on a date, nothing is settled and everything is liquid; both are very happy. Why? Because they are free. The bird on the wing is one thing, and the same bird in a cage is another thing. They are happy because they are free.
Man cannot be happy without freedom, and your old family structure destroyed freedom. And because it destroyed freedom, it destroyed happiness; it destroyed love.
It has been a kind of survival measure. Yes, it has somehow protected the body, but it has destroyed the soul. Now there is no need for it. We have to protect the soul, too. That is far more essential and far more important.
There is no future for the family, not in the sense that it has been understood up to now. There is a future for love and love relationsips. “Husband” and “wife” are going to become ugly and dirty words.
And whenever you monopolize the woman or the man, naturally you monopolize the children, also.
Your child comes through you, but he doesn’t belong to you. He belongs to existence. You are at the most a caretaker..
Different people bring different songs, different life styles, breezes, rays of light – and children should be showered with as many different lifestyles as possible.
And they should be enriched by knowing so many women that they are not obsessed by the mother’s face or the mother’s style. Then they will be able to love many more women, many more men. Life will be more of an adventure.
My vision of a commune is of loving people living together with no antagonism toward each other, with no competition with each other, with love that is fluid, more available, with no jealousy and no possession. And the children will belong to all because they belong to existence – everybody takes care of them.
